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::.My partner and I are often emotionally distant during sex...
If it seems you and your partner are often emotionally distant during sex, you may cease to be "present" during sex. Falling out of touch this way can foster emotional alienation, sexual dissatisfaction, other resentments, and even sexual dysfunctions.
The Solution
Focus on feeling: You can do a lot to renew emotional connection with your partner by focusing on what he or she is feeling. Forget about trying to get you or your partner aroused; forget about trying to reach orgasm. Instead, concentrate on "feeling while touching," Dr. Schnarch suggests.
Touch to feel: "Try to feel your partner while you touch him or her. Stop trying to touch your partner's skin; try to touch his/her heart," he says. Pay attention to whatever touch or sexual behavior increases the connection between you and then build upon this. "Forget about perfecting your sexual technique," Dr. Schnarch counsels, "because no technique creates emotional connection if you and your partner are alienated."
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